Appreciating People

ImageAll too often we forget about the people who made a difference in our lives. This was brought to my attention yesterday by the act of a friend. My friend asked me if I could drive her to her ex husband’s house. Without hesitation I did.

On the way, during the 20min drive, my friend explained to me that since their daughter had gone off to university her ex husband needed to move. She was concerned for him and his heath. Since their daughter had left he had become very lonely.

My friend lives with her fiancée and he is as caring as my friend. I have noticed over the years every time she has a gathering at her house she always invites her daughter and ex husband. A mutual respect remains. However her ex husband is many years older than her and even so is too active to be placed in a nursing or aged care facility.

In the car my friend was sincerely concerned. “He is family, I can’t abandon him”.  With the consent of her new fiancée my friend was going to her ex husbands home to pack up and move him to her home to live.

She said many friends considered she was crazy. For me, my admiration for my friend rose very high. It speaks volumes of a person who recognizes that because a relationship no longer is suitable to each other it doesn’t mean it spells an immediate enemy. After all she said we were once in love and he gave me so much. He gave me the chance to be the person I am today. I cannot turn my back on him; I worry about his well being.

How beautiful is this situation for their daughter who is very close to her dad. To know, even though her parents are no longer in love they still love and respect each other – and additional kudos to her new fiancée who feels no threat and only acceptance. Now that is love in its true form and light.

After I dropped off my friend and while I was driving home I started to consider the many people who made an impact in my life. I thought how I should acknowledge their contribution to my life. Some have distance themselves from me for varies reasons but even so to remember their impact should not be ignored. It even occurred to me the friends who caused grief for me taught me many lessons. The experience of knowing those people contributed to my learning and trust towards such characters.

When it is appropriate, remember and acknowledge people who have contributed to your life, even the negative ones because they taught you how to navigate around such personalities.

Additionally, make an effort to contribute to other people’s happiness and development. I am not suggesting in a negative manner, unless it is the only way around the situation but preferable in a positive one.

Happy Celeritism


Helping people out of kindness

ImageOften I think, we don’t help people around us as much as we should. This morning I viewed a youtube video which I had seen before and prompted me ro remember how simple it is to be kind. In Russia many cars have dash cams in their cars and this is a collection of clips which I would love to reblog to you.

Let us all start to do something kind everyday. Even if it just picking up rubbish off the street as we walk by or help someone in need.

Happy Celeritism


Be Kind

ImageEvery day do something kind. It is easy to overlook how we come across to people. You may ask, what can I do? It is simple. Open a door for someone. Smile and say hi to someone who looks sad. Let someone who has a few items while you have a trolley full of food go before you in a supermarket. There are many things you can do to be kind.

We live in a world which operates in the fast lane. Sometimes we forget to stop and breathe and notice the world around us. Kindness is a simple act and yet the person who receives it can be greatly impacted. When someone does something kind to me, a stranger, it makes me feel so special. This feeling is good and makes me want to share it. Don’t over do it, you don’t want to be dramatic. Make it subtle because this is what comes across more powerfully. A simple smile can make another person feel good. When I first started doing walks I felt a stranger in my own area. And yet people I did not know would say hello and smile as they walked past me. Wow, something so simple and I felt a sense of happiness from it. I didn’t realize something so simple could have such a big impact. So now I say hello and smile and I realize the giving feels as good as the receiving.

Have you ever woken up in the morning feeling fantastic and anxious to face the day, to only have someone grunt at you in a shop. Your whole feeling plummets from happy to unhappy. The impact is enormous. Same in a car, you are happy driving along and minding your own business when another motorist does something like, bips at you for going too slow or something. It ruins your day.

So don’t ruin someone else’s day because you are grouchy. Remember your actions do affect other people. If you give a snub response, then you affect another person. I had a lady say to me rudely in a supermarket to move my trolley. I was deciding what brand of canned peaches I would buy and hadn’t seen her come up behind me. I obliged immediately but then she commented again like, ‘Your’re not the only person shopping in this isle’. That ruined my day. I felt anxious, embarrassed and totally uncomfortable. The whole thing was unnecessary.

It is easy to be nice. Ask someone in a nice way, with a smile if you can. Because remember your actions do affect other people. And additionally take the time to do something kind every day.

Happy Celeritism