Life in a box

Has your life been labelled because of past opinions or actions? It amazes me how people hold you to a comment you may have said a year ago and expect you to firstly remember and then secondly give you no leeway to change your opinion on that comment. This has happened to me many times and I dearly hate it.
We change opinions. Many times we express opinions in jest without much thought. I have often made a ‘don’t hold me to it’ opinion to have it come back and bite me. People take things so seriously – crazy.
We are free to change our thinking governed by our circumstances. People do have very hardened opinions on certain topics and amazingly many hardened opinions do change.
Every person deserves the right to change their opinion on any topic or situation. Basically it is our right to not be put into a box formed from what we have said lightly or otherwise.
I have come to the practice of when I’m reminded of a comment I vaguely remember I respond eagerly with – I LIED.
It is true I have some very unshakeable opinions which under the deepest of comments I refuse to change and then I have opinions I least care about and can waver. It is interesting it is those ‘I really don’t care about’ opinions are the ones I am constantly held accountable for. And funnily enough my hard core opinions no one challenges me.
My advice is – you are entitled to an opinion and more importantly you are entitled to change your opinion as many times as you choose. Equally remember everyone else has that same right.
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Secrets to a long life

It is one question many people seek. What is the secret to living a long life? There have been several notable people and my favourite is the story about Jeanne Calment from France. Jeanne (1875-1997) died at the age of 122 years and 164 days.
The incredible stories from these people who live to such an old age are simple. There is nothing they do extraordinary. The most common factor seems to be they live a reasonably stress free life. In the case of Jeanne she smoked cigarettes from the age of 21 until she was 117 – amazing. Jeanne drank port wine daily and consumed around a kilogram of chocolate every week. Her diet was rich in olive oil. She was not considered to be athletic nor was she obsessed about her health. What she did was for her enjoyment rather than for fitness. Ironically she took up the sport of fencing at the age of 85 and rode her bike up until she was 100 years old. All these activities were because she enjoyed them not because she was trying to be healthy. And yet in a subtle way it probably kept her fit.
Jeanne lived on her own up til she was 110 and was self sufficient. It was only after a cooking accident due to her sight she was moved to a nursing home. Jeanne remained in good condition enjoying walks and loving life until a fall at the age of 114 years and 11 months causing her to have surgery. She remained mentally alert and in tact until the end.
It seems the advice to living a long life is very simple – keep it simple. Enjoying life, living with minimal stress and a good dose of great genetics seems to help. For Jeanne she outlived her children and many of her grand children. So this questions the genetics part and the amount it played.
The interesting component when you read the stories of these people who live beyond 100 and continue to enjoy their lives for many more years is they take life as it is – without complications. They don’t appear to suffer from extreme challenges and generally go with the flow.
We are so often told the many evils of life – shorten our lives, such as smoking, alcohol and eating too many sweets. And that we should watch our diet and don’t eat this or that and yet the oldest recorded and verified woman to live broke all those rules.
It gives a great deal to think about. Is society being programmed against certain things? The mind is so easily moulded and perhaps causing people to live shorter lives for no authentic reason.
Live life comfortably, balance is great. A little of this and a little of that make life a colourful canvas. Stress and worry is what kills not the many fads of do’s and don’ts.
Balance and happiness make for a great life. Live life and enjoy life and most important is the quality of life.
Here’s to many years of living.
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Cost of living

The cost to live is getting beyond a joke. Water, electricity, electronic usage such as wifi – it is all getting too much. I know of a lot of people who live with the very minimum possible use of these items and still find themselves paying enormous bills.
Retail businesses are dropping prices for their wares because consumers are not buying. People are buying less and less. In fact, I think, the prices of t-shirts, jeans, and general everyday wear are cheaper than they were 5 – 10 years ago and yet commodities continue to rise. The imbalance is ridiculous.
Because the cost of necessity items for living continues to rise many people have stopped purchasing pleasure items. This in turn is causing a mini economic collapse.
Money is a major obstacle and a challenge difficult to overcome. We all need money to survive because there is no true possible way to live without it.
How do we overcome this? Take the time to sit down and consider what you waste your money on. You may need to start by writing up an expense list and look at how you can minimize your uses.
From my list I crossed off the use of my drying machine. This alone has saved a lot for me. I have drying racks and I utilize my schedule so I don’t have the situation where I need to use a drying machine. In regard to my washing, I do it less. My sheets/bedding instead of weekly, I have gone to fortnightly to now monthly. Yes sometimes it is after three weeks because, well, the sheets need it. But in all I have learnt to not wash so quickly some jeans and tops and I wear them that extra one more time. In this I have lessened my water usage and electricity.
As for lights, I only turn on the ones I need and not flip them on as readily as I use to. Bit by bit I have begun to save extra but in doing so these commodity companies have annually raised their prices. This has become rather a game of catch up. It has made me look in other areas.
If you take the time you can bring down a few expenses. As for my shopping I now buy specials. If it is generic items without urgent use by dates – I buy extras. This goes for shampoo and conditioners and deodorants as an example. By the time I have used up my stored items, they are back on special. I do this also with food items. For me it is a weekly activity to check the specials pamphlets left in my mail box to decide what it is I will stock up on. Then what are left are the daily items, like milk and bread. Actually, for bread I do stock up on this when on special and pop it in the freezer.
This type of living is probably difficult for someone with a very busy life but I think if you really want to save money you can find the time to cut some edges to save. After a while it does become habit. I have also conditioned myself to not buy clothes unnecessarily because these in particular are getting very cheap because of the competition between retailers.
Whoever said life was not meant to be easy was correct but sometimes I wish it was a lot easier than it is.
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Life in a box

We mould our lives, we design how we live. Some people may suggest they don’t but we do. It fascinates me when people gripe about their lives. It particularly catches me attention when some people complain about the choices they make.
These complaints can be as simple as having children too early when having sex can mean just that. The answer is simple; if you can’t control your situation then don’t have sex. If you find yourself in financial hardship then you have made those choices to be in that position.
Life is full of choices and they are not necessarily productive ones but they are choices none the less.
If you live your life on the side of caution then you are less likely to find yourself in difficult situations. If you throw caution to the wind and live your life recklessly without consideration for tomorrow than you must expect something may happen.
We need to live life with passion and we need to live life with blind choices but the bottom line is the result of our lives will always be in our hands.
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Guns

Guns are an object which on their own have no power. Guns don’t kill – people using guns kill. In America in particular the respect for using guns seems to be a broad circle. People are more concerned with their rights rather than the rights of the people who have become or will become victims of gun users.
In war torn areas of the East guns have played a murderous part in removing the rights from the recipient of gun users.
While gun users march for their rights, it seems they fail to see the rights of people who have lost their lives because of these rights.
Everyone has the right to be protected and more so innocent people who have had to put up with gun spinning idiots. Animals alike are subject to the idiots of hunters who consider killing innocent animals a sport.
There is no place and no need for guns. It is obvious, in the countries that sport guns freely that equally gun misuse is very high. No one needs a gun. Too many innocent people have been murdered because people are paranoid about having guns.
If gun shooting is so important, then leave it as a sport on the gun range. However in recent news a young 9yr old murdered her instructor at the gun range. Is this worth it?
Violence needs to stop. This is not only the wars around the world but the people who create their own private war by flashing their guns murdering innocent people.
We all need to feel safe. And this all needs to start with realising by having a gun means you intend to murder – pre meditated murder.
Guns are violent – guns are dangerous. You only have to ask the numerous families who have been left grieving as a result of guns being misused.
Say no to violence – say no to guns.
Everyone is entitled to live safe.
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Victim Mentality

What I hate the most are people who cause massive trouble and then play the victim. These are people who refuse to accept responsibility for their actions.
The trouble maker who makes out they are the victim invariably cause anguish for the people who are the true victims. I had such an event happen to me recently. I had something unforgiveable occur and the person who caused all the problems has over played victim by turning the whole incident, actually it was two incidents against me and in their favour giving a reason so beyond acceptability it has made me cringe.
Victim Mentality – It is for this reason, having happened before – for switching a situation – that I take self promoting victims lightly until I know it is genuine. My sympathy is not so easily or freely given anymore.
Be ware of people promoting themselves as victims. Are these self proclaimed victims genuine or just trying to escape taking responsibility for their actions?
Be careful don’t be sucked into these type of peoples whims because you may find yourself in the same situation as I have been in where suddenly I have been made to feel guilty for doing nothing more than being the recipient of some one else’s behaviour.
These people are self destructive and eventually in a close knit peer group they are eventually exposed.
Stay away from the person who promotes ‘Victim’ resulting from their own actions.
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The Church’s dictatorship of Family

The church does not dictate what family is to me. The ideals many churches hold are biased and out dated. In my family I do not teach hatred toward peoples choices of being in same sex relationships. My family is not exposed to superstitious beliefs which have no basis. Or ignorant god sciences based on lack of education.
My family accepts the many people who treat us well; we will not give our time to people who consider us evil because we do not hold their godly thinking.
We will not be placed in a hypocritical box sanctioned by the church where the thinking is dangerous and narrow minded.
Many of the church systems are becoming out of control wanting to take control of political thinking, placing women secondary in this world.
The church does not hold all the answers and in fact – their facts are out dated superstitious dogma which holds no place in my home.
Many members of the church are victims of this system so I don’t hold them accountable. The members have been brainwashed through the tool of fear suggesting hell awaits them if they don’t comply. I don’t hold them responsible because they fear something they have been led to believe is true but instead I have sympathy for them because they have not been able to find a way out.
Don’t support the short mindedness of the church.
Support freedom, love, equality, and moral thinking as your guide without any godly threats attached.
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