Your Memory

How good is your memory? I have been ill the last couple of days and trust me it takes some doing to pull me down. Here I was on my bed – sick – and I was tested for my memory. This had nothing to do with me feeling ill, no, not at all. I was asked if I wanted something to eat, yes I said – some soup would be nice. I got a roll on lecture about how I had said at one time or another I didn’t like soup and had I forgotten. Well quiet frankly, I didn’t care and yes I had forgot but what did that have to do with me feeling like soup now?
I rolled over in a – I really don’t care – mentality and started to think. How often have we been held accountable for something we have said and forgotten and probably didn’t give a great deal of thought to? See even when I am sick my mind keeps going – so frustrating. Anyway my mind went off into never never space thinking the amount of times I have said something, then forgotten, then after being abused and only under extreme strain – remembering saying something. Wow, that was tiresome. It happens, we are very often held accountable for every comment, every movement every wink and so on. It is like having your life under a micro scope. I think we are entitled to change our mind and not be held accountable for something we did or did not say.
I said I did not like soup – then – but today I want soup. Does this make me a liar? No it is me exercising my right to change my mind, my opinion and my thoughts.
Don’t presume because someone said something once that they first of all, remembered and secondly still think the same. And not everyone has instant memory recall. It doesn’t make a person chronically forgetful it just means they are not focused on that particular issue at that particular moment. Meanwhile I made my own soup because apparently I once said I didn’t like it.
Happy Celeritism – So good to be back

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Severe Headaches

I woke up this morning with one of my severe headaches caused by sinus. I realized today that I cannot go on like this any more and have made the decision to have the operation to remove the blockage.
The headaches are more regular now and I am not living a quality of life. I am ashamed to say it has taken me this long to realize.
I have taken some medication to dull the pain for the moment, so if you are like me and are putting off making your life better because of some fear of the operation then don’t. I will be off to see my doctor in about an hour to tell him, I have had enough and I want to feel good.
Happy Celeritism

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Bad said about you

It is an ugly moment when you find out you have been betrayed – And making it worse – by someone who is close to you.
It is all fun and games to mock people. It can even be a buzz if that person is someone you actually love and respect – say a family member or a close friend. But what if what you said or agreed to that someone else had said got back to the victim?
Betrayal is the first word that comes to my mind. Let’s turn this around, what if something someone else said about you behind your back and you got wind of it. How would you feel? Hurt and pain are words of feelings that come to my mind.
Loyalty and genuine friendship should never be gambled with in favour of feeling like one of the crowd and agreeing to nasty gossip.
Laughing at someone behind their back digs into their dignity. It is not a matter of them finding out it is about desegregating their image. This is a very thoughtless and nasty action.
When you hear someone announcing savages accusations about someone you care about – be strong and stand up for them in their absence. Being able to speak out against nasty gossip to show your support for a friend takes character.
I would like my family and friends to stand up for me when I am unable to defend myself against vicious gossip as I would do for them.
Happy Celeritism

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Friends on Levels

There are many different levels of friendship. Some people we call our very best friend, or our best friend, or a good friend or just a friend. The levels do vary.
We have friends we tell everything to. Let’s face it no one tells absolutely everything about themselves to anyone. We all have that little dark corner which is assessable only to us. There are those friends we open up a little bit to. We have friends we keep stuff in a casual way.
In other words we keep friends on levels.
Keeping friends on levels lowers the gossip. Also it can be about whom you trust or who you feel secure with – telling your deep thoughts.
The responsibility of knowing intimate information about a person can be delicate. Should private information be leaked then the person that information was given to become the question of trust.
We all have close, very close friends and we have casual or general friends. We know who we can trust and we know who can cause trouble for us.
My advice is, if you truly do not want something to leak then keep it to yourself in that dark corner only you have access to. I say this, because very often friendships can turn sour and anything a person knows about you can become a cannon of bullets.
Enjoy your friendships, even let people know and feel you think highly of them but always remember – the only person you can truly trust, is yourself.
Happy Celeritism

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Excessive Expression

Have you been in a situation where you find yourself over expressing yourself trying to convince someone? I have on many occasions. Particularly I find myself in this type of place when I am agitated for some reason. I tend to go for over kill.

An immediate example happened to me only a couple of days ago. I was asked if I did spas. So rather than just saying no, I had to go into the whole – no and I don’t do massages or any of those alternate things. From there I kept giving examples when I am sure the person who asked me got the message loud and clear – the first time.

I have done this on many occasions. I find sometimes a simple yes or a simple no – without expanding upon the subject – is not enough. It is as though I have to go into over kill to get my point across.

For some reason guilt seems to govern my reaction. I cannot explain why, but it does. Over explanation is not necessary. We do not need to justify our decisions, our choices for any reason. We should feel secure with our answers every time.

So, when someone asks you something or to invite you somewhere don’t feel it is necessary to over explain your answer – a simple yes or no with perhaps a nice thankyou should be enough.

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Excessive Expression

Have you been in a situation where you find yourself over expressing yourself trying to convince someone? I have on many occasions. Particularly I find myself in this type of place when I am agitated for some reason. I tend to go for over kill.
An immediate example happened to me only a couple of days ago. I was asked if I did spas. So rather than just saying no, I had to go into the whole – no and I don’t do massages or any of those alternate things. From there I kept giving examples when I am sure the person who asked me got the message loud and clear – the first time.
I have done this on many occasions. I find sometimes a simple yes or a simple no – without expanding upon the subject – is not enough. It is as though I have to go into over kill to get my point across.
For some reason guilt seems to govern my reaction. I cannot explain why, but it does. Over explanation is not necessary. We do not need to justify our decisions, our choices for any reason. We should feel secure with our answers every time.
So, when someone asks you something or to invite you somewhere don’t feel it is necessary to over explain your answer – a simple yes or no with perhaps a nice thankyou should be enough.
Happy Celeritism

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Joan Rivers’ Goodbye

On very few occasions there is someone who stands out from the crowd – A person of talent and raw opinion. Joan Rivers stood on that platform.
She was a woman of wit, high intelligence and energy – a quirky woman. You either loved her or hated her – particularly if you were burnt by her. It took me a while to gel to her but then I became an avid fan. I loved her direct bluntness and her spot on comments without shame.
Joan Rivers spoke for us who could only dream of saying what she said. Have you ever had a Joan Rivers moment when you wanted to speak what you were truly thinking? I think more of us should, instead of following the herd with appearance of not having a mind. It is this directness I began to enjoy about Joan Rivers and what I loved even more was the 1001 ways she kept herself young – a jealously for many women who would have loved to be so forthright.
Joan Rivers will be missed but she leaves for us a legacy of boldness, humour and utter individuality. So when you have that moment of politeness and want to throw caution to the wind – think of Joan Rivers – what would she say?
Happy Celeritism

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